When we think of psychological therapy, the image of a person doing an individual session with their psychologist comes to mind. We may also think of group therapies, such as those of alcoholism that frequently appear in movies. We may even imagine a couple with many conflicts which go to a consultation together. However, these are not the only ways to give therapy. There is a therapeutic modality that brings to the consultation not only the person with their difficulties but also the family members. This is known as family therapy, and here we will explain aspects of this therapy and how it could help you.

Family therapy is a psychotherapeutic approach different from that commonly used in individual therapy. This therapy focuses on interactions between the family members and not on the problems or difficulties of a single person. In family therapy, the family is understood as a system in which the members are not isolated but continuously influencing each other. That way, when conflicts in their dynamics, vital or family crises, or even when a difficulty of one member appears, all components of this family system will be affected. In turn, they could help and contribute to solving these difficulties.

The reality is that all people come from a family, many will have already formed their own family, and many others will do so in the future. Families are our first place of growth and socialization. It is in the family where we learn to take our first steps in personal self-knowledge: Who are we?, what do we like? what do we want? etc. These and thousands of other questions, sometimes so difficult to answer, are beginning to be answered in this first social area that constitutes the family. Additionally, families, including our own, are influenced by endless circumstances, from the past and present, culture, society, and many other aspects. Without a doubt, each family is unique. And therefore, the relationships that are established between its members are also unique.

For this reason, it becomes clear that treating a person without taking into account their family environment can be fruitless. And this is where family therapy makes sense since we cannot lose sight of the fact that the family is considered in most societies as the most important pillar on which the individual growth and development of a person are based, as well as their roles, duties, values, beliefs, and principles. This approach not only takes into account social and family factors that surround the person. It also allows the therapist to intervene directly with this context and with the dynamics and relationships immersed on it.

The goal of the family therapist is to help restore the balance of the family when tensions, communication problems, or when one of its members has any problem that could affect coexistence at home. In a family therapy, the therapist will attend to the family as a whole. The therapist will study its dynamics, its dysfunctional communication, and its behavior patterns, having as the ultimate goal the transformation of a family that does not function into a functional family, where all members can grow and develop healthily.

In short, the goals of the family therapist would be the following:

1. Promote the transformation of the family, fostering equitable relationships, mutual support, collaboration, and stimulating growth and a sense of collective responsibility.
2. Help the family to change the perception of the problem, building a new narrative of the problem and understanding that the way of relating in the family may be related to the appearance of symptoms or difficulties.
3. Helping to modify dysfunctional repetitive behaviors that could harm relationships.
4. Promote the development of new healthy ways of communicating, encouraging healthy emotional expression.

Surely more than once, you have been able to observe, in your environment, families with great difficulties. Even your own family, at some point in its life cycle, would have had to face its own obstacles. It is in these situations where family therapy can be beneficial.

Here we are going explain in what situations family therapy will help:

• To help children and adolescents in different situations: fears, eating disorders, difficulties in school performance, drug use, addictions, etc.
• To help after parents’ separation or divorce in the adjustment to the new family structure and composition.
• To face the challenges of multiculturalism in the family.
• To resolve communication conflicts and adaptation in family relationships.
• To face and overcome mental and emotional dysfunctions and disorders as a family.
• To assist in educational concerns between parents.
• To help to face difficulties when it comes to implementing boundaries, rules, and reaching agreements in the family.
• To face stressful life events, such as family grief or illnesses of one of the members.

It has already been a year since the beginning of the health crisis caused by COVID 19. What was originally going to be just two weeks of confinement gradually became an almost endless situation. Months of confinement, locked up at home, with fear and uncertainty. And we still didn’t know what we were facing. Is there an actual risk? Is this just mass hysteria? Meanwhile, the news bombarded us with overwhelming information about risks, safety measures, social distancing, numbers and more numbers about the pandemic evolution, the “new normality” and its phases, and a long etcetera that we were listening to and trying to integrate into our everyday life.

And when it was over, what did we found? Restrictions, fears, social distancing, curfew and more uncertainty. A contradictory socio-political environment that we couldn’t understand and a return to life very far from normality. Who would have guessed that more than a year later, the word “PANDEMIC” would still have such strength, and that we would have dealt with not one or two, but three waves, and thinking about a fourth?

No doubt that this situation prolonged in time, and so unpredictable has an impact on us. The first days we were hesitant with the new safety measures. However, little by little we started to understand the importance of following all the protocols. Thanks to this, we felt some sort of control regarding our own protection and more responsibility towards others. However, a year after, the pandemic is still here and the safety protocols that we easily integrated (mask, hydroalcoholic solution, distances, quarantines, etc.) are more difficult to maintain. Without even noticing, they are fading away. The feeling of control and responsibility decreases, while our demotivation and tiredness arise.

This is what is called Pandemic Fatigue.The WHO defines this as “demotivation to follow recommended protective behaviours, emerging gradually over time and affected by a number of emotions, experiences and perceptions, as well as the cultural, social, structural and legislative environment.”According to Carlos III Health institute (ISCIII), data shows that while this situation continues, we are being more careless when following the safety protocols.

Today we are exhausted, and the strength and adaptability that we showed at first, is being lessened. Our coping mechanisms that were useful in those first months of the pandemic are diminishing, and now that we understand that there is no established end, our motivations decrease, leaving the door open to the Pandemic Fatigue.